A little direction goes a long way

Why do we get off track in dealing with addictions? We go down the wrong road and we get stuck doing the same thing over and over. We get in the game with the addicted person. Part of codependency recovery is stepping back and going down a different road. For example your spouse comes home drunk. You start giving them bad looks and soon there is a fight. You spent the whole night worrying and getting yourself in a stew to then unleash this wrath on your drunken spouse. What does that create, a big fight where you are both frustrated and screaming like idiots and making your kids neurotic set up for their own problems later in life. How about another road..... go to a movie, read a book, go to the gym, Al-Anon meeting, have a meal etc. Then go to bed and if they come home drunk unless there is a safety issue go to sleep. There will be a much better ending in this road. If they are too sick to go to work don't get involved. Try the two roads yourself.